One theory of gardening is that the gardener seeks to recreate the special garden of childhood. I freely espouse that theory, and my woodland garden is evidence in support of it.
I was lucky to spend my formative years on property that had been part of a hunting lodge estate on the Fox River. I'm dating myself here in noting that this was in the late 1960s and early 1970s, before the area was completed developed and all trace of the garden destroyed. As most mothers at the time, my mom ordered us to "go out and play" when the weather was good. My siblings and I played elaborate games in the woods, by the pond, by the creek, by the river. Many of those games involved the plants we found growing in our "playground."
Before the property was first developed in the 1920s, it had been a Burr Oak savanna. Between the hunting lodge by the river and the big house with the ballroom someone had planted a wildflower garden. In addition to the exotics, both purple and white flowered Lilacs, Foxgloves, and Lily of the Valley, native wildflowers grew in abundance.
the next-door neighbors' Lilac
We didn't know their botanical or common names, so my siblings and I called them Umbrella plants
and Bee plants.
Somehow, we knew the name of Jack in the Pulpit,
Columbine and Dutchman's Breeches, but we never had a name for Caulophyllum thalictroides.
And, of course, everyone knows what a Violet
and a Fern are.
We didn't know their botanical or common names, so my siblings and I called them Umbrella plants
and Bee plants.I am inescapably drawn to these plants and find I have to grow them. I've even planted a couple of Oaks.
There were probably other wildflowers, but these are the ones that fill my memory. These are the ones special to me.
So my garden begins to resemble an overgrown, abandoned garden returning to a state of nature, to the chaos of the natural world. I can never completely recreate that lost idyll, nor would I want to. It is enough that fragments of memory are woven into the fabric of the garden. And then the wild child runs free again through the woods.



23 comments:
Oh MrMcDD, I just love this post. I too have elements in my garden that echo stories of my childhood. I have a row of hydrangeas that remind me of that time during my childhood I could hide beneath the neighbors bushes and watch my poor tortured mother calling for me. The woodland flowers are memories of camping out and racing through the woods on horseback trying to keep up with my older cousin. Ha...what wonderful memories.
Your garden sounds like a magical place, where you can go to be "young at heart" and remember good times. My childhood garden is my Dad's vegetable garden. I can remember helping to plant it and walking down through the rows with tomatoes, peppers, and green beans.
That's the garden I'm always trying to re-create!
Carol, May Dreams Gardens
This is a great post. I'm glad your garden brings you so much pleasure, that is what it's all about.
Lovely post. My memories of childhood gardening are mostly of helping in the vegetable garden, but also making pretend dolls out of hollyhocks (wonder if anyone else did this?). My mother recently gave me some starts from her old hollyhocks, so a little bit of my childhood is with me again.
Enjoyed your Mother's Day post also; a very touching tribute to your mother.
How wonderful to have such a magical place to play as a child. Sure beats video games.
I can so relate. My garden is mostly a collection of sentimental favorites. I sometimes consider myself more of a plant collector than a gardener. Most of what I have in my garden has some sort of sentimental memory, either from childhood, or from some time earlier in my life. It's kind of similar to what I have in my house - most of what I have left after combining households with my husband is stuff that has sentimental value, stuff that bears stories and memories.
Hi MMD ... you certainly seem to have inherited a rich array of plants there, and it all looks so lovely! Personally I tend to eschew the totally manicured and cedar mulched look of a woodland garden, and to an extent we just let ours do what it wants. Have to admit the ivy we have as a ground cover is starting to test its boundaries (not mention threatening to cover the side of the house!), so think we'll have to tame that a bit this year, because it's venturing out to the sidewalk! BTW, our Jack in the Pulpit just started blooming yesterday after suddenly emerging last week ... its first time (we planted it last year), so we're tickled!
Wonderful post with wonderful memories. Thank you for sharing, MMD! It is fun to read of the names you created... they fit exactly! I consider myself so very fortunate that I have a woodland backyard. I can cultivate and plant all I want, but I can also step beyond my beds and right into the woods. Awesome! And peaceful. And I still want a large, long hammock someday, so I can hang it between trees and swing backwards and forwards!! Doesn't that sound great? ;-)
I agree - we do try and recreate little fragments of our childhood gardens. Lovely post - very nostalgic
Regards
Karen
Hi MMD, a boxwood hedge would not fit in with your woodland wonderland at all! I like the party time atmosphere you have created, so wonderful and natural. Ha to not knowing the name of the caul. thalic., well why not? ;-> Your childhood sounds marvelous. I can't think of a better place to grow up. Looking forward to seeing this with the Chicago fling!
Frances
Spot on! You have captured in word and garden how I feel about my wildness at C&L. Thank you mmd for conjuring distant childhood memories!
Love your wilderness and the photos of Jack and his friends are lovely.
gail
Great post. It's wonderful that you have created not an exact copy of the garden of your childhood but its essense. Lilacs, I remember them from my childhood too, who doesn't?
Lisa - I guess we nurture our inner child with our plants. We're fortunate that we can grow the plants of our childhood, unlike those who have moved to different climates as adults.
Carol - how cool that your special remembered garden is a vegetable garden. That makes total sense.
Robin - I feel so fortunate to have been able to live on property that allows me to have this garden.
Rose - while I never played with Hollyhocks, the florist for my wedding did. He also made earring out of Snapdragon flowers. I guess that's why he has the most beautiful floral arrangements in the Chicago area.
Garden Girl - admit it, you're a plant pack rat. :^) I also share the challenge of making a garden out of a collection of plants.
Iowa Victory Gardener - how great that your Jacks are preaching! I can't remember how long after I planted mine before they started to multiply, but now it seems they need dividing every year & I'm scattering them all around the garden.
Shady - the hammock sounds great as long as you've got a mosquito netting suit on! I wish I had an actual woodland like yours, but then I'd have to deal with the deer.
Artistsgarden - thanks, I hope this post brought back wonderful memories of your own lost garden.
Frances - I'll give you an advanced sneak peek if you're ever in Chicago. I just think "party" sounds better than "complete mess."
Gail - I think our gardens (& Shady's) must be very similar. It's wonderful to have others know exactly how you feel about a plant or a garden mood.
Yolanda Elizabet - I feel sorry for anyone who never had Lilacs in their childhood (yes, that's all those tropical & desert gardeners). Although Lilacs aren't native to the Midwest, nearly every farm had one by the outhouse. Archeologists actually look for the Lilacs to determine where to dig on old farm sites.
I had a childhood like that too, MMD (early 70s here too). Weren't we lucky compared to the fairly cosseted ramblings children today get?
Because I live 1,000 miles from where I grew up, in a different climate and growing zone, I can't grow many of the plants I remember so well from my childhood. My palette may be different, but the memories inform the gardener I am today.
You wrote so sweetly about that lovely childhood place, MMD!
Like Pam, I live far away from my childhood home, too. Ours was in SW Cook county...an empty lot on the edge of our neighborhood had a few wildflowers like May Apples, but my memories are of full sun, scrub trees and prairie plants like blue-eyed grass, wild strawberries, Dock and something we called horsetail grass. And snakes... lots of snakes. Maybe that's why I tend to try recreating my grandmother's more urban garden with flowering shrubs and iris!
Annie at the Transplantable Rose
Pam - I guess you just needed to be more creative with plant choices to recreate the feeling of that garden. We were very fortunate to have enjoyed such freedom. I wish my kids had that opportunity
Annie - I love snakes! My brother even caught a couple of snakes, one for me, one for him. We played with them for a whole afternoon before my mom made us let them go.
I used to play with them too, MMD - but they were only garter snakes in IL. Attracting snakes to a TX garden might get you some other kind ;-]
Annie
Annie - sometimes I forget Texas is like another planet - fire ants, killer bees, crazy raspberry ants, etc. Makes me appreciate winter.
This was a wonderful post to read. I enjoy discovering what it is that draws us to gardening and why we love the plants that we do. It was a lovely glimpse into your garden and your childhood memories.
I grew up surrounded by cornfields, and gardens were for vegetables ;-) But we kids could walk a little way outside of town and find a patch of woods to play in. I still remember the magic feeling there - very different from the open spaces. Now, living in the suburbs, it's unusual to see kids outside doing nothing in particular. I wonder what they'll look back on when they grow up?
Kate - knowing the nature of a gardener's childhood garden makes understanding each one's current garden easier. I find it so fascinating, I wish everyone would post about it.
Entangled - sad, but true, I fear my kid's memories will be of Nintendo & cartoons. I swear DH & I spend more time outside than the kids.
I've been thinking a lot about that theory since I visited Tom Spencer's garden. The area I loved the most was filled with the flowers from my childhood: coreopsis, purple coneflowers, ferns, and orange "ditch" lilies. Maybe that's why I can't seem to cut back and organize the "mess" in one of my back beds where the coneflowers have run together with guara, bachelor's buttons, sunflowers, and small white daisies...
Lori - now you have an excuse not to cut back those flowers, they're food for your inner child.
So glad you put a link to this from today's Zen post: reading this has quite cheered me up: thank you for that.
Those fallen estates with their great buildings (and ballrooms, even), stay in you memory, don't they? They still exist somehow.
Lovely post.
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